We Looked LIke Giants
I'd like you all to take a second and actually examine yourself in this situation: you are walking to a class, nice weather outdoors, a little breeze, bright sun, lots of people. You pass someone, anyone. What do you do?
I've noted 3 common responses. 1) avoid any kind of contact, including eyes, bag knocking, stumbles, glance at clothes, etc. 2) eye contact and continued movement or 3) some other form of interaction like a smile, hello, how are ya, wat up, yada yada.
Now, not that I've been bored or anything, or that I walk alone every where I go on campus, but I've been trying to take these opportunities to formulate some kind of hypothesis determining who, why and when peopel choose each one of these options.
I am a classic 2/3. Depending on the vibe I get from someone I will either simply connect and move on if no further action is detected from the other side, or I will put myself out there and try a 3. Only if Mr. Graycloud decides to fog my mood for the day do I ever choose option number 1.
What I've noted after paying way to much attention to these interactions is that I get very offended by being ignored, and slightly creeped out by a prolonged smile, and a mix between comfortable and judged with eye contact. No wonder people feel awkward at all the above interactions.
But if I had to do a psychological analysis of the 3 interactions they would go as follows
1) Either you're a classic emo kid, the kid with the BMW, or the boy who if avoiding suicide by recieving self-help talks via his headphones. These people tend to be either really uncomfortable with themselves (thus promoting a self-absorbed vibe) or to into their head that an interaction is not worth it. The only ones I have found who do not fit this catagory is the occasional, very distracted, normal kid.
2) People who are either interlocked in conversation on their phone or with another individual, or those who are performing their own pyscho-analysis of me! These ones are very common so they vary in actual description. Their actions are most likely attributed to a lack of confidence which pulls them shy of option 3 but allows them to check out the oncoming situation regaurdless.
3.) The outgoing type, someone whom you are aquainted with, or anyone who is seeing the glass half full. I'd like to try to be this person all the time but the fact of the matter is, very few people have the energy or desire to do so effectively without seeming a bit creepy.
So, what'll it be. Walk cautious, walk slow, and figure out how many of each you come across. YOu will be astounded by what you can see in this blink interaction.
As for tomorow, I am just gonna focus on getting out of bed...