"Better to Have..." Now I am aware that most often the title of my posts are so abstract that upon looking back even I have a hard time making a correlation between the post and the title, but today is different.Today I am coming out straight; the question is "is it better to have"?

As many ways as this may be attacked, I choose to take the relational route. I could go off on materialism but I feel no questions are unanswered as to whether value lies in owning stuff or not.
While living life, I have noticed; at times, we avoid people, pets, things, stuff, opinions, or options because often we feel it is better not to have and never loose than to have at all. Where is this imaginary line draw? What is safe to have and what holds too much possibility of pain? Often I find this strategy occuring within all age brackets. For example, children when reasoning whether or not they truely want a new pet often come to the conclusion they would rather not because they hate it when they die. Thus they would rather never own a new Fluffy or Spot than go through the pain of their pressumed death. Again we see this option pop up in the dating years. Young men and women roam from fling to fling avoiding commitment because it sucks too much to have to break up with someone. On the other hand, those who DO choose relationships often let problems go prolonged and happiness unhad because it is too hard to approach the slithering snake of the relationship. Again, in the more advanced dating years, we see the better to not have than have lost strategy approach those seriously considering marriage. With the 50% rate we have now it is often reasoned that some would rather not risk a possible divorce than risk a successful marriage. Now I ask why??
We are raised being taught that life is full of opportunities to grab and take advantage of, but we still wade in shallow water rather than risk the fast paced deep. Learning from the very beginning "Better to have lost than never to have loved at all" but we live in a world of mediocracy for fear of this lost that is praised. All I can conclude is that we are somewhere, somehow, getting the message that life is full of a whole lot more bad than good. That those things we truely desire lead to our downfall. Since when did everybody become Hindu? I mean seriously, it's like the world believes that one minute of pain is so unbareable, that not even an infinite amount of happiness is of equivalue. Then I am brought to ask, what is it about pain that is so bad? Why are we so afraid of it? Why is it seen as a regression of character instead of a stepping stone? What happened to struggles leading to ultimate growth? Too many questions.

Conclusion: It is better to have, but even I, am still afriad of pain.
  ¶ 11:07 PM